Posted by: rhenderson8110 | January 10, 2013

The Art of Reacting

“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” SO much of marriage (and our spiritual walk) lies in reaction & response. There are times your spouse will do and say things that bewilder, disappoint, hurt or anger you. That’s a fact. (and by the way, that is true of EVERY spouse so don’t waste time daydreaming about what it would be like if you married someone else.) Our job, as loving and submissive wives, is to be purposeful in our reactions. It is not okay to sin because your husband sinned against you. (Want to note that we often sin against our husbands too- it’s a 2 way street.) You still have to repent, because you still sinned!

So, my advice: take a BIG, DEEP, breath. Recall in that 30 seconds what God is calling YOU to do and the purpose for which He created you. And then, smile. Yes, actually physically smile. Force it. It is seriously really hard to snap back with some rude or hurtful quip when you are smiling. Trust me. Be purposeful about your reactions and responses.

A man has joy by the answer of his mouth: and a word spoken in due season, how good is it! – Proverbs 15:23

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